The Key Didn't Work: a question

Oct. 18th, 2017 05:57 am
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Posted by Dave Hingsburger

So much of my life as a disabled person revolves around bathroom issues. Is it accessible, can I get into the stall and close the door, how heavy is the door into the bathroom - will it break my footrests, can I use the toilet, where are the bars, and the like. Then there's the need I have to simply not being a jerk and not thinking my disability needs trump anyone else's need. It's a physical and emotional and cognitive challenge just to get around, just to use the toilet, the most basic of needs.

I'm staying in a wonderful hotel, with an amazing room and welcoming staff. The public washrooms though aren't so great. Many I can't get my chair in the stall and none are good for going number 2, for that I need to go to my room. I can make this work.

On our first day here, we checked in early and then used our time differently. Joe went to pick up beer, I went to the gym. The gym has some accessible equipment and I really wanted to get some real exercise in. I'd done about an hour work out and then had to go to the bathroom. The key card did not open the bathroom in the gym and I was afeared that it wouldn't work in the room either. I headed downstairs with a bit of urgency.

There were hundreds of people checking in and the line up were long. I knew from the morning the the concierge was able to check people in so I went to his desk. There were three people in front of me. I had to go to the bathroom, I couldn't use any of the public bathrooms and my key to my room wasn't working. I'm getting increasingly panicked.

The women in front of me all looked very nice. They all looked understanding. But they also looked tired from travel and that they'd been patiently waiting their turn. I had to fight down the urge to ask to just get my key card redone so I could go to my room and thus go to the bathroom which I really needed to do.

I don't like, and I know you won't believe this, talking about my bathroom needs with real, in the flesh, strangers. I don't like the idea of them thinking that I'm thinking that my need is bigger and more important than theirs. I don't like the possibility that they may think I'm using my disability to get to the head of the line. I don't like any of those things, but mostly I don't want to be thought a needy jerk, a man who puts himself before others.

So, I waited my turn. With moist eyes I told the concierge what it was I needed and it was fixed quickly and I was up in my room in moments. Thank heavens.

I've faced the bathroom issue pretty much every day since becoming disabled. It's the balancing act I'm wondering about. Do any of you have issues when needing something disability related, that non disabled people don't worry about - like bathroom access, and worrying about how to deal with the balance between your needs and the needs of others?

What I've Been Reading Wednesday

Oct. 18th, 2017 09:52 am
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What I've Finished Reading

I finished up The Castle of Otranto and it continued to be delightfully OTT and ridiculous right to the very last line. I laughed a lot. Especially at the last line. The charm of it is, I think (other than gloomy castles and giant suits of armour and what have you), that it's very hard to tell if the whole thing is some kind of joke, or just bits of it. This seems to have been the question for 250 years, and, indeed, the next book I read, The Old English Baron by Clara Reeve is quite openly The Castle of Otranto, the more rational (and therefore possibly not-truly-Gothic) remix.

As Clara Reeve says in the introduction, certain elements of Otranto, "destroy the work of imagination, and, instead of attention, excite laughter." (Walpole apparently responded that hers was, "So probable, that any trial for murder at the Old Bailey would make a more interesting story." Hmm, wait, a novel featuring a real life murder...? Shame he didn't try it, heh.)

It does indeed tail off into a long, plodding fixit of everything, though. It's rather like a tumblr-recommended fixit version of Otranto where everything is relentlessly put right and all the bad people are punished or grovel and apologise to the good people. I liked the beginning with the locked up haunted wing with the murdered body in it very much, though, mixed with a more recognisable setting. Also its hero Edmund has an amusing tendency to weep over people. (The best bit was at the end where he flung his arms round both his mentors legs at once and they had to stop him and then he still had to hug them and weep over them.)

But, given that it's still only about 130 odd pages and has a haunted East wing, it was readable and fascinating to compare to Otranto. I'm glad the collection had them both.

I also read another Daisy Dalrymple (Dead in the Water), which you could probably tell because fic happened. My friend is coming to see me again this week - I have hopes she might be able to lend me some more, because the only others I've found are quite a few books on from that. (Obviously, I'm looking forward to seeing her with or without books, but with books is always better.)

What I'm Reading Now
Sorcerer to the Crown by Zen Cho, which, as promised by [personal profile] aralias, is very light and enjoyable and just my sort of thing. I seem to be okay with it, too. \o/ (The only downside is the inevitable comparison to Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell, which can do it no favours. It's a shame she didn't set it, say, 20 years later or earlier to mitigate that. Although, of course, I'm only 100 pages in; there are no doubt very good Plot Reasons.)

(I'm still note-taking from A Mad Bad and Dangerous People? and technically sort of reading Desolation Island, but have not progressed far with either since last time.)

What I'm Reading Next
Well, if my friend does bring me some more Daisy, there'll be that. And once I've finished Sorcerer to the Crown, I might try the next Gothic novel in the collection, which is Mistrust by Matthew Gregory Lewis (author of The Monk).
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Wednesday 18/10/2017

Oct. 18th, 2017 09:58 am
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1) tea. Lots of tea.

2) finally printed something that I have wanted to print for the last half year. Also, finally made an appointment I've been delaying for the past 9 months...

3) going to call [personal profile] lhune  this evening. Really for sure this time!

museum visit

Oct. 17th, 2017 09:06 pm
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Our friend E. recommended the exhibit on Teotihuacan current at the de Young Museum in the City. So, B. having the day off work today, we went. It's a pleasure to have such things within the range of doing on impulse without prior notice.

Most of the Mexican pyramidal sites that people know are in the Yucatan, but this one is in the central highlands near Mexico City. It predates the Aztecs, but whether it was built by their ancestors or someone else is unknown. It's been excavated for over a century, but a lot of valuable material has recently been discovered in tunnels.

I was most attracted to the carvings in serpentine, jade, onyx, and other stones, but there were also a lot of intriguing ceramic pieces, carvings on large conch shells, etc. One of their favorite images was the feathered serpent, sometimes depicted on wall murals at 6 to 8 foot length, and just begging to be incorporated into a fantasy novel. (It's been done, by Kenneth Morris and perhaps others I don't recall.) There were also feathered felines (the captions used the word feline for all such creatures, whether feathered or not, as their resemblance to what we'd call cats was elusive), birds with hands, and people with ghostly imperturbable expressions akin to those of moai statues, carved from stone but with eyes of shell or pyrite. It was all memorable and distinctive stuff.

We added a successful browse through both of the museum's gift shops, and then drove down, out of Golden Gate Park where the de Young is located, to Borderlands in the Mission district, passing by a whim past their future site on Haight a couple blocks east of Ashbury, to which they're in the process of buying the freehold; this turned out to be a better route to the current store than the one I'd been previously contemplating. There we had cider in the attached cafe - ah, fall! when the cider blooms - while waiting for the store to open at noon, where we bought more books.

Lunch at a Mexican place in South City where I'd been before, and then home, and that was our half-day out.

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Oct. 17th, 2017 11:23 pm
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Alright, folks! Things are well and truly moving here at the Black Emporium.

As a reminder, treats can be uploaded at any time, can be made for anyone, and can be of any length, type, etc.  Icon set? Yup. Fanart sketch? Heck yes! Drabble? You know it. Fanvid? DO IT. Wallpaper? ALWAYS. If it can be uploaded to Ao3, it can count.

We're debuting a new system to encourage treats this year. Much like the Dragon Age games have trophies or achievements you can unlock for doing different things in-game, so too does this exchange have our own trophies!


These are awards that are unlocked by the entire community rather than on an individual level. Every time a new work is added to the archive, we will update the spreadsheet. Author/Artists names will not be listed until the trophy is unlocked, but progress will be updated in order to provide inspiration. 

At the end of the exchange when all authors/artists are revealed, we'll post banners made by Mod A or a volunteer and give credit to the member(s) of our community who unlocked it! Your Ao3 username will also live on in the Achieved By: Column of our spreadsheet until Spec Recs 2018, unless you would prefer to be known as something else (in which case let us know). Anyone who prefers to be anonymous will get put on the list as "Anonymous [Animal]" in the spirit of Google Spreadsheet's favorite way of listing anons looking at it. 

We are seeking volunteers willing to commit to making trophies! These do not need to be done until a trophy is unlocked, and  can be either original art, manips, or just screenshots with some writing on them. Please send us a message on Tumblr or comment on Dreamwidth if you're interested in making art with us. 

Around three weeks before the archive goes live, we'll add a another sheet to this spreadsheet with the usernames and requests of those who do not yet have any treats for easy inspiration. We’ll let you all know when that happens.

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Thursday, 17th October, 2017

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Oct. 18th, 2017 03:08 pm
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Curious question: do they teach 'show don't tell' anymore?

I seem to be reading a disproportionate number of stories lately where I've been told everything that's going on, using a character's headspace and thoughts, rather than being shown it in a character's interaction with other people and the universe around her. And it kind of makes me want to rewrite the story to be better...


I have eaten an awful lot in the last week, thanks to Sydney's Night Noodle Markets, which is full of amazing Asian-esque food.

Granted, I went with a couple of friends on Monday, and am going again with a couple more friends on Thursday, and I went and bought some last night (taking it home in a takeaway container)

a list of foods )

I went for a walk, but the wind proved problematic for my skirts, so I ended up taking the elevator to the floor six below the one I work on (also owned by the client) and walking up. It was a good walk; I must do that more often...for the seven days that I have left working here.

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There's a fair amount of evidence in canon for this week's prompt:
Or horse power, if you prefer! 
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Remember, there's no time limit for when you need to post your prompt-inspired works. We welcome prompts from previous themes and prompts at any time. Drabbles or ficlets of any length are most welcome. Go wherever the muse takes you, including any pairings and characters that you please, just as long as Giles somehow involved.

Don't forget, Giles's Halloween Fanfic Extravaganza is just two weeks away on the October 31st!!
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In yesterday's post, we met Sakura, and we saw her getting in trouble by kidnapping an enslaved serving girl in order to set her free.

Part II is the conclusion to her first adventure.

With your trademark Sakai Twist™ )

Sakura is slated to return, according to Stan Sakai, but I've seen no indication of her comeback so far.

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good things of late

Oct. 17th, 2017 08:00 pm
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Stunning views of Mt. Hood on the drive home on a couple of clear days lately.

Autumn leaves!!! The red-violets, the scarlets, the golden yellows, the lemon-lime yellow-greens, the rich bronzes, the purples and olive-greens! The chiaroscuro of wind movement, the ombre effect of different amounts of light on different heights, the subtle changes day to day!

Talked to my sibling B last weekend. They are doing well, being absurdly domestic with their adorkable partner, and in touch with our parents.

Noticed feeling unusually upbeat in car on the way home, compared to usual after-work blahs.


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