My kids took forever to toilet train too. Both were among the last to train in their preschool classes, and they were both immune to the peer pressure of everybody else being toilet trained except for them.
With the older one, I don't think he was physically ready until age 4 1/4, when he finally trained. With the younger one, she was ready very early but for some reason was just *not* willing to try it. I finally got out my copy of "Toilet Training In Less Than A Day," modified the book's process to include her as more of a partner in the process than a recipient of it, and together we worked through the things the book said to do. I think what was worrying her was that she thought she wouldn't be successful, or she wasn't sure what to do, or something along those lines. So she seemed to really like having an official concrete procedure to go through in order to be officially toilet trained. It worked!
(If I've said all that before, I apologize. I'm repetitve because I'm stupid, not because I intend to be repetitive.)
I don't think Delia's concerns are exactly the same ones as those, so I don't necessarily think that what worked at my house would work at yours.
Oh, and I vaguely remember telling Delia recently that she was getting big and that it was cool and impressive. It might have been about toilet training; I'm not sure. If I caused problems with my comment, I apologize!
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With the older one, I don't think he was physically ready until age 4 1/4, when he finally trained. With the younger one, she was ready very early but for some reason was just *not* willing to try it. I finally got out my copy of "Toilet Training In Less Than A Day," modified the book's process to include her as more of a partner in the process than a recipient of it, and together we worked through the things the book said to do. I think what was worrying her was that she thought she wouldn't be successful, or she wasn't sure what to do, or something along those lines. So she seemed to really like having an official concrete procedure to go through in order to be officially toilet trained. It worked!
(If I've said all that before, I apologize. I'm repetitve because I'm stupid, not because I intend to be repetitive.)
I don't think Delia's concerns are exactly the same ones as those, so I don't necessarily think that what worked at my house would work at yours.
Oh, and I vaguely remember telling Delia recently that she was getting big and that it was cool and impressive. It might have been about toilet training; I'm not sure. If I caused problems with my comment, I apologize!