I am Jewish, but not all that knowledgeable about Bat Mitzvah's. I've only ever been to one, and that was for a mom-friend of mine who was belatedly getting Bat Mitzvahed in her 40s. But that was at Temple Beth Emeth, so at least I have useful information there.
Temple Beth Emeth is very accepting and freewheeling, so it's a place where I wouldn't worry too much about behavior, clothing, etc. -- normal good manners should be fine.
I've noticed that in recent years it is common for the kid having the Bar/Bat Mitzvah to do a project to support a charity, so you may be told that the Bat Mitzvah girl is supporting whatever-she-has-chosen, and you may choose to donate to that. But they will tell you if they are doing that -- you don't need to ask about it.
It is fine to ask the family for advice. They will be able to tell you more specifically what to expect.
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Date: 2016-01-12 04:25 pm (UTC)Temple Beth Emeth is very accepting and freewheeling, so it's a place where I wouldn't worry too much about behavior, clothing, etc. -- normal good manners should be fine.
I've noticed that in recent years it is common for the kid having the Bar/Bat Mitzvah to do a project to support a charity, so you may be told that the Bat Mitzvah girl is supporting whatever-she-has-chosen, and you may choose to donate to that. But they will tell you if they are doing that -- you don't need to ask about it.
It is fine to ask the family for advice. They will be able to tell you more specifically what to expect.