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Nov. 14th, 2017 08:24 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
the_rckI seem to have overdone things a bit yesterday-- The uterine biopsy started bleeding again after coming very near to stopping. The difficulty is that I can't be entirely sure this is all that biopsy. My last period was in late September, so an actual period wouldn't have surprised me. This doesn't count for tracking purposes.
For some reason, I thought my next appointment was Thursday, but it's tomorrow. That will be at Taubman. If it's not raining, I might try walking part of the way home. I could have lunch at that same diner again if I did that, and from there, I can check the bus that leaves me at the top of the hill instead of at the bottom. Maybe Ingress will cooperate.
I told Scott last night that I suspect the problem is my phone because no one else in the local Slack group is having the problem. Given that I've been having the same difficulty since last Wednesday, I suspect that there would be massive bitching there if other people were having that sort of problem.
I have one long comment that really want to answer before I do my UCon characters, but I think I'll make myself do at least one character before I start that. This evening will be eaten by a choir fundraiser (dinner and a concert). Tomorrow, I have an appointment, Cordelia has an appointment, and we may have friends over for games in the evening. I really, really don't want to still be fighting with this Thursday. At that point, we'll need to pack.
I have to pick a villain and a setting for the Sentinels of the Multiverse game I'm running Friday morning. I don't want to be boring, but I also don't want to get blindsided by not knowing enough about the villain and/or setting. Just looking at the decks doesn't tend to help me that way, so I probably need to see if I can get people to play the game tomorrow evening so that i can try out a couple of options.
Sunday, I got a call from my father saying that my uncle, my father's youngest sibling, was in the hospital and had been since Monday. On Friday, they airlifted him to a bigger hospital. My father didn't give me much information, and I think that he didn't have much and that nobody thought to tell him until Sunday. My uncle and his wife are the people in the extended family who are most likely to share information, and well, he was in a coma. She can't have been in any state to deal with making phone calls or with telling her sons to make phone calls.
Grandma, who is 93 and almost blind, lives with them, and she really can't be left alone for long. She's mentally sharp for her age, but the point of her living with them is that there will be someone around if she falls or otherwise needs help. She can't see to read people's phone numbers; she can't actually see to dial. (Yes, there are ways around that, but she's 93 and not eager to deal with new-to-her technology.)
My father called later in the day to say that my uncle had come out of the coma and that his doctors are 'guardedly optimistic.'
I should probably give my younger cousin a call. I have phone number for him, and he's the one most likely to know what's going on in detail (he's the local superintendent of schools. Details are important to him, and he's the family organizer). I also want to make sure that, if his father can't manage Grandma's trust, my cousin steps in and keeps my father from messing things up. My father's not malicious, but he has no self control when it comes to money. There's a reason that Grandma owns the house where my father lives. I did notice that, on the last check Grandma sent me, my father's name wasn't on it as a trustee, so I'm hoping that he isn't any more. I understand the family politics involved in putting his name on there, but that was twenty years ago when my uncle was healthier and local (as opposed to my father who's hours away by plane).
My mother told me, when I called her about my uncle, that he had told her, when we visited in 2014, that he didn't think he had much time left. Neither of them told me or my sisters that. But I can see my uncle looking ahead and realizing what a really, really terrible idea giving my father access to the trust would be, especially if he was the only one with that access. My father would take the money for a scheme that was a sure thing (at least in his mind) with the idea that he'd double or triple what he took. Which never works.
The main purpose of the trust is to make sure that my aunt, the middle child of the three, is looked after. She ended up with brain damage after a severe illness (which had been made worse by alcoholic malnutrition). We don't know how much longer she'll be with us. When I've talked to her, she's seemed more or less functional for short conversations, but she can't use a stove or oven because she will forget what she's doing in the middle. Microwaves and other things that turn themselves off are okay, but she may not remember to retrieve the food. I don't know how those issues affect the rest of her basic functioning, but I would expect there to be some impact. She can't drive any more, and she certainly can't work. At this point, she needs oxygen all the time. Because of where they live, they have to work with the hospice program in order to get it.
I don't think that Grandma's trust involves all that much money. My assumption is that most-- possibly all-- of it will go to making sure none of her children or her children's spouses starve on the street. I'm sure that the original idea was more to keep the money from getting devoured if Grandma needed a nursing home and, possibly, to avoid dealing with probate after she passes.
For some reason, I thought my next appointment was Thursday, but it's tomorrow. That will be at Taubman. If it's not raining, I might try walking part of the way home. I could have lunch at that same diner again if I did that, and from there, I can check the bus that leaves me at the top of the hill instead of at the bottom. Maybe Ingress will cooperate.
I told Scott last night that I suspect the problem is my phone because no one else in the local Slack group is having the problem. Given that I've been having the same difficulty since last Wednesday, I suspect that there would be massive bitching there if other people were having that sort of problem.
I have one long comment that really want to answer before I do my UCon characters, but I think I'll make myself do at least one character before I start that. This evening will be eaten by a choir fundraiser (dinner and a concert). Tomorrow, I have an appointment, Cordelia has an appointment, and we may have friends over for games in the evening. I really, really don't want to still be fighting with this Thursday. At that point, we'll need to pack.
I have to pick a villain and a setting for the Sentinels of the Multiverse game I'm running Friday morning. I don't want to be boring, but I also don't want to get blindsided by not knowing enough about the villain and/or setting. Just looking at the decks doesn't tend to help me that way, so I probably need to see if I can get people to play the game tomorrow evening so that i can try out a couple of options.
Sunday, I got a call from my father saying that my uncle, my father's youngest sibling, was in the hospital and had been since Monday. On Friday, they airlifted him to a bigger hospital. My father didn't give me much information, and I think that he didn't have much and that nobody thought to tell him until Sunday. My uncle and his wife are the people in the extended family who are most likely to share information, and well, he was in a coma. She can't have been in any state to deal with making phone calls or with telling her sons to make phone calls.
Grandma, who is 93 and almost blind, lives with them, and she really can't be left alone for long. She's mentally sharp for her age, but the point of her living with them is that there will be someone around if she falls or otherwise needs help. She can't see to read people's phone numbers; she can't actually see to dial. (Yes, there are ways around that, but she's 93 and not eager to deal with new-to-her technology.)
My father called later in the day to say that my uncle had come out of the coma and that his doctors are 'guardedly optimistic.'
I should probably give my younger cousin a call. I have phone number for him, and he's the one most likely to know what's going on in detail (he's the local superintendent of schools. Details are important to him, and he's the family organizer). I also want to make sure that, if his father can't manage Grandma's trust, my cousin steps in and keeps my father from messing things up. My father's not malicious, but he has no self control when it comes to money. There's a reason that Grandma owns the house where my father lives. I did notice that, on the last check Grandma sent me, my father's name wasn't on it as a trustee, so I'm hoping that he isn't any more. I understand the family politics involved in putting his name on there, but that was twenty years ago when my uncle was healthier and local (as opposed to my father who's hours away by plane).
My mother told me, when I called her about my uncle, that he had told her, when we visited in 2014, that he didn't think he had much time left. Neither of them told me or my sisters that. But I can see my uncle looking ahead and realizing what a really, really terrible idea giving my father access to the trust would be, especially if he was the only one with that access. My father would take the money for a scheme that was a sure thing (at least in his mind) with the idea that he'd double or triple what he took. Which never works.
The main purpose of the trust is to make sure that my aunt, the middle child of the three, is looked after. She ended up with brain damage after a severe illness (which had been made worse by alcoholic malnutrition). We don't know how much longer she'll be with us. When I've talked to her, she's seemed more or less functional for short conversations, but she can't use a stove or oven because she will forget what she's doing in the middle. Microwaves and other things that turn themselves off are okay, but she may not remember to retrieve the food. I don't know how those issues affect the rest of her basic functioning, but I would expect there to be some impact. She can't drive any more, and she certainly can't work. At this point, she needs oxygen all the time. Because of where they live, they have to work with the hospice program in order to get it.
I don't think that Grandma's trust involves all that much money. My assumption is that most-- possibly all-- of it will go to making sure none of her children or her children's spouses starve on the street. I'm sure that the original idea was more to keep the money from getting devoured if Grandma needed a nursing home and, possibly, to avoid dealing with probate after she passes.
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