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the_rckOkay, I'm pissed as hell at my father.
My sister told him the other day about her breast cancer and upcoming surgery. She felt she needed to explain why she wasn't going to be able to fly to Michigan to see Grandma. He yelled at her. He never once asked how she's doing or what the surgery entails. She got off the phone with him and cried.
She's also really afraid that Grandma will die and nobody will tell her. That's what happened when our great-grandmother died. Nobody told her until after the funeral. I didn't know she didn't know, or I'd have told her. I have promised her that, if something happens to Grandma, I'll call as soon as I hear and that, if it's the day of her surgery or the day after, I'll call her husband.
My sister is actually pretty scared and anxious. She's putting a good face on it because she really doesn't have a choice. She's got to get through the next few weeks somehow. She says it's giving her a lot more sympathy for people with chronic anxiety.
My sister thinks Grandma has been ready to die for a while now. I can't tell how much of that is her reading Grandma better than I do and how much is her being really stressed out what with everything going on right now. I mean, apparently Grandma hasn't been eating much except cookies (and she'll only take those if no one's looking). Grandma also knows that it's quite possible (even likely given the state of my aunt's health) that she'll outlive some or even all of her kids, and she saw her mother go through that. Grandma knows that the grandkids and great-grandkids are all doing just fine. We want her around, but when she goes, we won't fall apart.
Though I wonder if we'll still talk to each other much. I can't remember the last time I called my aunt or uncle or either of my cousins. We don't even send Christmas cards.
My sister told him the other day about her breast cancer and upcoming surgery. She felt she needed to explain why she wasn't going to be able to fly to Michigan to see Grandma. He yelled at her. He never once asked how she's doing or what the surgery entails. She got off the phone with him and cried.
She's also really afraid that Grandma will die and nobody will tell her. That's what happened when our great-grandmother died. Nobody told her until after the funeral. I didn't know she didn't know, or I'd have told her. I have promised her that, if something happens to Grandma, I'll call as soon as I hear and that, if it's the day of her surgery or the day after, I'll call her husband.
My sister is actually pretty scared and anxious. She's putting a good face on it because she really doesn't have a choice. She's got to get through the next few weeks somehow. She says it's giving her a lot more sympathy for people with chronic anxiety.
My sister thinks Grandma has been ready to die for a while now. I can't tell how much of that is her reading Grandma better than I do and how much is her being really stressed out what with everything going on right now. I mean, apparently Grandma hasn't been eating much except cookies (and she'll only take those if no one's looking). Grandma also knows that it's quite possible (even likely given the state of my aunt's health) that she'll outlive some or even all of her kids, and she saw her mother go through that. Grandma knows that the grandkids and great-grandkids are all doing just fine. We want her around, but when she goes, we won't fall apart.
Though I wonder if we'll still talk to each other much. I can't remember the last time I called my aunt or uncle or either of my cousins. We don't even send Christmas cards.
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Date: 2015-07-10 04:56 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-07-10 12:47 pm (UTC)I have told my sister that she can call me any time, any time at all.