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Mar. 15th, 2016 05:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
the_rckWhy on earth do these genetic counseling forms need my step-mother’s date of birth, date of death, and cause of death? (She still alive, but still, WTF?) Or my brother-in-law’s dates?
And I really don’t want to call my 25 year old half-sister who I don’t know very well to ask if she’s ever had a miscarriage. I think it’s pretty damned unlikely since her mother did sexual advocacy for people with disabilities. I can’t imagine her letting her daughter be ignorant or without access to birth control. And, even if she had, my sister spent four years at Barnard, living in New York City. Accidental pregnancy seems unlikely and intentional even more so. I just don’t actually know, and I normally only talk to my sister twice a year, Christmas and her birthday.
Oh, great, I have to ask all of my female cousins about miscarriages, too. Do I really need to ask the sixteen year old? It’s not actually impossible that she has. It’s just very unlikely and also not something that I’d think she’d be comfortable with being asked even if her parents don’t know (she’s my cousin’s daughter who was adopted by her father’s parents, my aunt and uncle).
I can pin down the year and month my mother’s mother died because it was a day or two after Hurricane Georges ripped through the Florida Keys where they lived. She was too sick to be evacuated, and the roof came off of their house during the storm. My father’s father died the same year, but I can’t remember if it was earlier or later in the year. I might still have the handouts from their funerals, and I expect those would give exact dates (and dates of birth which I also need).
I wish I still had access to AppleWorks documents because I did a relatively detailed family tree for a class fifteen years ago, and that had things like my father’s mother’s maiden name (I remember what it was but not how it was spelled) and everyone’s dates of birth. It would save me a lot of phone calls and digging. I’ll still need to ask Mom about causes of death for Grandpa, Uncle Bill, and Aunt Donna, but I can at least do that by email. Mom does email. Papa doesn’t.
I also only know birth dates for one of my aunts and uncles (one aunt was born on Christmas Day).
And this is the first form. Other forms in the packet ask me to get them copies of the pathology reports for everyone in my family who’s had cancer of any type. I can get my sister’s, but it’s been eighteen or so years since my mother’s mother and father’s father died, and I’m not sure anyone actually did any pathology work on my grandfather’s brain tumors. They didn’t remove any of them because there were dozens (They stopped scanning after the first couple of layers because they’d already found more than twenty).
And I really don’t want to call my 25 year old half-sister who I don’t know very well to ask if she’s ever had a miscarriage. I think it’s pretty damned unlikely since her mother did sexual advocacy for people with disabilities. I can’t imagine her letting her daughter be ignorant or without access to birth control. And, even if she had, my sister spent four years at Barnard, living in New York City. Accidental pregnancy seems unlikely and intentional even more so. I just don’t actually know, and I normally only talk to my sister twice a year, Christmas and her birthday.
Oh, great, I have to ask all of my female cousins about miscarriages, too. Do I really need to ask the sixteen year old? It’s not actually impossible that she has. It’s just very unlikely and also not something that I’d think she’d be comfortable with being asked even if her parents don’t know (she’s my cousin’s daughter who was adopted by her father’s parents, my aunt and uncle).
I can pin down the year and month my mother’s mother died because it was a day or two after Hurricane Georges ripped through the Florida Keys where they lived. She was too sick to be evacuated, and the roof came off of their house during the storm. My father’s father died the same year, but I can’t remember if it was earlier or later in the year. I might still have the handouts from their funerals, and I expect those would give exact dates (and dates of birth which I also need).
I wish I still had access to AppleWorks documents because I did a relatively detailed family tree for a class fifteen years ago, and that had things like my father’s mother’s maiden name (I remember what it was but not how it was spelled) and everyone’s dates of birth. It would save me a lot of phone calls and digging. I’ll still need to ask Mom about causes of death for Grandpa, Uncle Bill, and Aunt Donna, but I can at least do that by email. Mom does email. Papa doesn’t.
I also only know birth dates for one of my aunts and uncles (one aunt was born on Christmas Day).
And this is the first form. Other forms in the packet ask me to get them copies of the pathology reports for everyone in my family who’s had cancer of any type. I can get my sister’s, but it’s been eighteen or so years since my mother’s mother and father’s father died, and I’m not sure anyone actually did any pathology work on my grandfather’s brain tumors. They didn’t remove any of them because there were dozens (They stopped scanning after the first couple of layers because they’d already found more than twenty).
