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Dec. 8th, 2002 08:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
the_rckI need to invest some time soon answering e-mail. I've got quite a backlog. Some of it's kind of difficult. There's the friend from high school who's going through a divorce. I feel bad for her in a sort of vague way, but... We've kind of lost the connection that we had. Our friendship was based on the fact that she came the closest of the people around me to having something in common with me and that, although I didn't share many of her interests, I was nicer to her than her other friends. (Yeah, that's an awful thing to say, and I probably wouldn't have said it even a year or two ago, but it's true. Even in high school, I refused to treat people like crap based on shifts in the social pecking order. No matter what I did, I wasn't going to fit in, so I wasn't going to help keep the system going.)
The divorce sounds unpleasant particularly because she doesn't want it. She's a religious Catholic and would prefer to work at repairing things. This is the second time, her husband has announced that he wants a divorce. Last time, he suddenly changed his mind, and I think she may be hoping it will happen again. She's terrified because she married at 20 and moved straight from her parents' home to living with her husband. They have no children (she can't, and he's making that the center of his decision but stating it as not being able to deal with "not being able to give her children" (he refused to consider adoption)), thank goodness, but they do have a rather aged dog who she's going to be stuck with. He wants the house, says he'll assume the entire mortgage (she's not convinced he'll be able to get financing), and wants her to move out NOW.
I rather think she's better off rid of him, and I've thought that since the first time he pulled this crap a few years back. I've kept my mouth shut, though. I don't even see her once a year and have no real concept of what her life's like. Even if I saw her every day though... Telling her what to do would be wrong. Of course, I suspect that if we lived close enough that we could see each other frequently we've have drifted completely out of contact already. Funny how distance actually helps maintain the relationship.
The divorce sounds unpleasant particularly because she doesn't want it. She's a religious Catholic and would prefer to work at repairing things. This is the second time, her husband has announced that he wants a divorce. Last time, he suddenly changed his mind, and I think she may be hoping it will happen again. She's terrified because she married at 20 and moved straight from her parents' home to living with her husband. They have no children (she can't, and he's making that the center of his decision but stating it as not being able to deal with "not being able to give her children" (he refused to consider adoption)), thank goodness, but they do have a rather aged dog who she's going to be stuck with. He wants the house, says he'll assume the entire mortgage (she's not convinced he'll be able to get financing), and wants her to move out NOW.
I rather think she's better off rid of him, and I've thought that since the first time he pulled this crap a few years back. I've kept my mouth shut, though. I don't even see her once a year and have no real concept of what her life's like. Even if I saw her every day though... Telling her what to do would be wrong. Of course, I suspect that if we lived close enough that we could see each other frequently we've have drifted completely out of contact already. Funny how distance actually helps maintain the relationship.
